Conversations couples face as they transition to the second half of life — money, roles, sex, and death among them — can be knotty, complex, and fraught with unsettling conflict. Differing goals, values and dreams that daily life obscured, press for answers.
As in those knee-buckling words, “Honey, we need to talk.”
Authors Dorian Mintzer (left) and Roberta Taylor
To help, psychotherapists and life coaches Dorian Mintzer and Roberta Taylor have written The Couple’s Retirement Puzzle: 10 Must-Have Conversation for Transitioning to the Second Half of Life ($17.95, Lincoln Street Press), a warm, practical, no-nonsense, and user-friendly guide to navigating and defusing potentially hazardous dialogues.
“What you are retiring to is more important than what you are retiring from,” they write. But figuring out how two people, confronted by a cascade of questions, can communicate effectively and puzzle out a map and route to a mutual destination — or shared vision — without falling prey to banked-up fears, secrets, differences and resentments is tricky stuff.
Do we want to retire? Can we afford to retire? How will we spend our time? What’s important? Do we have to spend all our time together? What if he wants to move to Key West and she wants to stay near the grandchildren in Pittsburgh?
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